There comes a time when you just feel that enough is enough. You have emotions and feelings bottled up and sometimes it's just hard to let stuff go. You want to find the right outlet to express yourself but in this life that can be a difficult process. We drown in the disappointment of others because they turn out to be the complete opposite of what we thought. The stresses that's caused by others play a huge part in just letting stuff go. We make huge mistakes by letting the wrong people in our lives and sharing personal interests because we become blinded by other aspects of them. We find out in the long run that they were just a lesson that needed to be learned. They turn out to be someone that was not meant to be a long term companion.
We as people get confused about who we decide to call our friends for the simple fact that we may not have many or any at all. Choosing wisely about who let into our doors is the true key. The wrong people with the right ammunition can be a deadly thing. For that reason is why we must no longer put up with it. We cannot let that said person be in control of how we decide to live our life. When we begin to show fear and walk on eggshells we give that person the upper hand and we lose site of what we truly hold and that's the strength to finally walk away.
Should we turn and run away from our problems fully? No but, it comes a time when you have had enough of the negativity and you just have to put away the bull. We all play the fool sometimes but we must not make it a recurring role in this sitcom we call life. Sometimes all we have to do is throw our hands up and say "I'm through". In the end I'm just saying...
In this life we get confused and sometimes don't know which way to go. We end up at a crossroad and begin to lose focus of the true goals that we are meant to channel our attention to. We get consumed by being afraid of what the next step might be and we run away and hide. As human beings we sometimes get a hold of a great opportunity but never take advantage of it and use it to our own ability. We get use to taking the easy way out in hope of that being the right path to follow. But, sometimes that easy road can lead to a few speed bumps because use we never end up thinking about the consequences of such actions.
It would be great to maybe turn back time and replay the whole thing over again but of course we know that life doesn't work that way. We know that we can only move forward with our choices and we just have to get use to the fact that sometimes if not all the time we have to learn to accept it. It's a tough process that we all must go through in order to grow and just learn from the experience. It is okay to get angry or sad when going through a tough time in our lives. It's best to let whatever feelings out and express what is the problem instead of having it eat away at us and consume us.
We have to understand that at different points in life we all have certain burdens we must carry and hells that we me catch in order to see what truly lies in store for us. Always remember that you have to go through some of the bad to get to the good. In the end I'm just saying.
Of course with a majority of my post I'm inspired by music some kind of way and the inspiration from this post come from one of my favorite singers Natalie Cole in her song "I'm Catching Hell". Yeah the title does sound depressing and negative but when really paying attention to the lyrics as Natalie herself says it has a positive vein. One again I've provided you guys with the live recording so enjoy.
It becomes an amazing accomplishment when we as people reach a positive high in our lives. The feeling of having everything situated and keeping the negativity at bay gives us the strength that we need on a day to day basis. Getting lost in a fog of stress only clouds our mind and doesn't leave any room for us to make any progress. Without that progress how are we expected to move forward and reach that euphoric peak to where we are able to breath and know that everything will be okay?
We as people I feel do get cautious to travel to that peak of comfort because we fear the fall or the push that could happen at any time. We choose not to take these risks because they tend to be alarming. But sometimes we have to risk the fall and be able to maybe prepare for a crash landing. However just because we may take the comfortable approach does not mean we are doomed to land on our face. We can end up reaching that ultimate high and not only feel comfortable to stay on top but also to be given an even more positive initiative to possibly take off and reach a higher destination.
We have to learn to stop placing limits on ourselves and the heights that we dream to reach. Believing that the sky is the absolute limit just doesn't seem to satisfy anymore. The cold feet that we may get sometimes keeps us from reaching a greater outcome and at times we miss out on numerous opportunities because of this handicap. Each new day allows us to make that decision to whether we want to take on a new change in our lives and reach a higher peak or do we choose to remain in a cloudy atmospheric environment that does nothing but put us in a funk of negativity. This positivity will only make us better people in the long run and reaching that high altitude can become our greatest achievement. In the end I'm just saying....
I tend to draw a lot of inspiration from the music that I listen to in order to help me with my writings. This entry was inspired by a song lifted from Alicia Key's most recent album "The Element Of Freedom" called "How It Feels To Fly". The message of this song really brought about a positive perspective that I took to heart. So for those who haven't heard the song you can take a listen below.
Intro:The movie "Precious" really spoke in volumes to a lot of people. Even though a depressing storyline the main character's outcome at the end of the film proved that even with all the odds against us we can still come out at the top and finally see in color.
We experience the good and the bad on this journey we like to call life. It's a rollercoaster ride that contains twists and turns that takes us places that we can never imagine. We live in a world where we cannot determine what happens tomorrow. However even though we cannot fully plan out our lives it doesn't mean that we cannot take full control of it and create a joyous outcome for ourselves. Harping on the negativity of what has burdened or stopped us from progressing positively only weakens us and places us in a dark and gray area. We cannot let what is holding us back determine how our lives are played out. It's important for us to remain optimistic about our future endeavors and take charge in what we think will be best for us and not worry about the said mistakes of the past.
Once we reach that euphoria of what makes us happy and what makes us smile we then see that all possibilities are endless. As we know time slows down for no one and we have to take advantage of the few joys that life throws at us every now and then. Forgetting the bad days can be a hard process but we have to learn from those experiences and turn them around in order for them to benefit us in the long run. When we begin to see life for what it truly is those bad days will become the least of our problems. Our stresses shall be lifted and we will open our eyes to the satisfactions that come our way.
Having this new found love for life and ourselves can only make us better people and that's something that can never be erased. The gray area that was once blinded us disappears from our eyes and from then on we can finally see in color. In the end I'm Just Saying......
My inspiration for this post of course came especially from the song "I Can See In Color" by Mary J. Blige which is also the theme song for the movie Precious. In my opinion you have to hear Mary sing this song live in order to feel the lyrics and get the true meaning of the song. So I've provided yall with just that so enjoy.
Is being single such a bad thing in our young lives? Are we too focused or shall I say too desperate on having somebody to call a "lover"? I would be lying by saying that I don't wish that I had someone to be my Valentine but, to be honest why do we as single people and maybe some couples as well harp on just one day out of the whole year? Why should Valentine's day be defined as the only day to actually have or find love? Being a single person I guess I would be singing a different tune if I was coupled up but, I think this is an idea that all people whether single or in a relationship can relate to. Our love status or lack of one should not be defined on the basis of not having a significant other. Limiting ourselves and questioning why we don't have a special someone at the moment does nothing for us but make the situation more depressing and stressful.
Just because we may be single now doesn't mean we will be single forever. We as people must drop the bad habits of feeling alone and sad on a day that of course was created on the basis of love. Loving ourselves first is the true key. We have to learn to be content and happy with our own personal love status before we add another person to the equation. So single people please celebrate the day of love with yourself if you wish and be in love with who you are as a human being. Finding a true love will come. As I said before love takes time but we also must remember the old saying of how one cannot love others if we don't love ourselves. Once we introduce and embrace the love that we have for ourselves our whole outlook will begin to change.
We will then see the true definition of what love is and learn how to harness it within ourselves. Valentine's day should no longer be the day of depressing thoughts of not having a significant other if you are single. Enjoy the love you have for yourself, from your family, or your friends. I promise when you realize that you have that much love around you, feeling lonely on Valentine's day or any other day will be a thing of the past. In the end I'm just saying.....
Today we live in a time where many things come to us at an easy and fast pace. In our youthful years mainly in our twenties we start to take the time that we have for granted. We begin to live in the mindset that if it doesn't happen now then it will not be achievable. Why in the most youthful time of our adult lives do we rush to make things that usually takes time to accomplish? Why do we constantly want our personal ambitions to instantly become overnight successes? Whether if they are career goals, romantic goals, or any other personal goals we must understand that these good things only come when we put in the time and management that is needed for it to prosper. We have to treat our personal ambitions as little projects that require our time and effort. An old saying comes to mind and it goes "only fools rush in blind".
As people we get caught up in the instant satisfaction of a relationship or a new opportunity. We sometimes forget to do our own background checks and fail to remember that we also have alternative routes that can and should be evaluated. We become so blinded by what can feel good to us for maybe ten minutes but, then forget to focus on what is suppose to last us for a lifetime. However we as people cannot help but sometimes jump to conclusions especially in our youthful ages. We must remember we are human and we love to test things out and see where our own personal experiences take us. Of course we have to find the maturity that can lead us in the right direction but, also remember to be cautious of the risks that we may end up taking.
There has to be a balance and we must not take either to the extremes. As said in the beginning it takes time to figure these different things out. Remember all good things come to those who wait. In the end I'm just saying...
A lot can be said about this topic. One that it's of course a situation that we have all gotten involved with and that is the est of real Friendship. On this topic I draw a bit of inspiration from R&B supergorup TLC in their 1992 classic "What About Your Friends". The song really goes into the depth of what true friends are and also sheds some light on the things that some of the fake people do i.e. what I call the seasonal "friends" and I use that term loosely.
In this life we as people have to surround ourselves with those who are positive. We thrive on having at least that one person who is going to uplift us in the down times that we of course will go through in life. These are the people that we call our friends. A true friendship however is something that cannot happen overnight. Real friendship is something that has to be developed on the foundation of trust and loyalty. This type of a relationship can be very hard to come by especially in our young lives in where we run into the majority of the fake people.
We run across different types of people that enter our lives that we are to quick to call our "friends". The one I would like to focus on in this post is one that I call the "seasonal friends". Seasonal "friends" are those that enter our lives only for a short period of time thus this is why we relate them to a season. We have to be careful when inviting seasonal people into our friendship circles. While they may bring a little excitement and good times, it takes a "true" friend to really stand the test of time and can still be there when shit hits the fan. Seasonal friends tend to leave when things get bad and in times when you really need someone. Always keep in mind that the seasons constantly change.
A healthy tip is to choose wisely on the people that we decide to give the "friend" title to because the real one are always very hard to come by. Letting random "run of the mill" individuals into our lives for the sake of saying we have "friends" is not the right way to build a healthy friendship. We only end up being hurt in the process when the so call friend up and leaves us hanging. We have to learn who the "real" friends are in our lives and build relationships with them. Only then can we call them a FRIEND. In the end "I'm Just Saying......"
What am I about? I'm a 20 Y.O. black male who lives in Atlanta GA. I am currently a Junior at Georgia State University and my major is Psychology. I see myself as a calm person but I am very out-spoken and very opinionated when I need to be. I'm a very cool person to know and can easily be friends with anyone but I can say that I have a sixth sense in pointing out the phony in people. I'm also all about helping others the best way I can. I know I may be young but I've been told I give great advice. Okay that's enough about me.
