What About Your Friends?

A lot can be said about this topic. One that it's of course a situation that we have all gotten involved with and that is the est of real Friendship. On this topic I draw a bit of inspiration from R&B supergorup TLC in their 1992 classic "What About Your Friends". The song really goes into the depth of what true friends are and also sheds some light on the things that some of the fake people do i.e. what I call the seasonal "friends" and I use that term loosely.

In this life we as people have to surround ourselves with those who are positive. We thrive on having at least that one person who is going to uplift us in the down times that we of course will go through in life. These are the people that we call our friends. A  true friendship however is something that cannot happen overnight. Real friendship is something that has to be developed on the foundation of trust and loyalty. This type of a relationship can be very hard to come by especially in our young lives in where we run into the majority of the fake people.

We run across different types of people that enter our lives that we are to quick to call our "friends". The one I would like to focus on in this post is one that I call the "seasonal friends". Seasonal "friends" are those that enter our lives only for a short period of time thus this is why we relate them to a season. We have to be careful when inviting seasonal people into our friendship circles. While they may bring a little excitement and good times, it takes a "true" friend to really stand the test of time and can still be there when shit hits the fan. Seasonal  friends tend to leave when things get bad and in times when you really need someone. Always keep in mind that the seasons constantly change.

A healthy tip is to choose wisely on the people that we decide to give the "friend" title to because the real one are always very hard to come by. Letting random "run of the mill" individuals into our lives for the sake of saying we have "friends" is not the right way to build a healthy friendship. We only end up being hurt in the process when the so call friend up and leaves us hanging. We have to learn who the "real" friends are in our lives and build relationships with them. Only then can we call them  a FRIEND. In the end "I'm Just Saying......"

Self-Validation!!!

Finally welcome readers to the first post of "I'm Just Saying..." The mission goal of the blog is to basically spread the opinions and experiences from the point of view myself while still taking in the opinions and experiences of others. Post that are posted on this blog will focus on topics such as love, sex, real life experiences, education, values, morals, politics and other opinionated topics. You too my readers can become involved and also post your own comments about what you think of the posted topic. Okay lets get into the first topic which goes into Self Validation.

It's always important to know who you are and where you stand within yourself. Going through life who doesn't face some kind of ridicule against them. Whether you are called a name, teased, or bullied by someone. The point is that this has happened to everyone at some point in their life. Our job as people however is to not let these discrepancies validate who we are and the things that we do in our lives. I quote this saying from my own experiences that I have faced earlier on in my life particularly throughout middle school and high school. It's easy to point out these types of problems around the ages of 12-17 as one can expect to receive this type of ridicule from our peers. However we tend to not find the solution to these problem around those ages as we are not mature enough yet to figure out a solution and apply it to a grown up situation.

For me it wasn't until my second year of college that I found out that I had to stop worrying about what others thought of me and the decisions that I choose to make. I was wrapped up in the idea that I had to make decisions and act a certain way in order to please those around me. I later learned that this was not the way to make myself happy. We as people forget that we must do what is right for us and not worry about how others perceive us. Putting our "well being" in the forefront does not make us conceited, it lets us know that we care about ourselves and that is the most important thing. Letting others place labels on our persona's only places unnecessary stress in our lives. Only we can place a validation on ourselves about the choices we make and the things that we do.

No one can teach us how to be our own person but ourselves. It it up to us to be content with who we are and throw away the worries of what we think people want us to be. Follow your own ideas and only then you can prosper. I will be the first to say this is only my opinion and "I'm Just Saying...."